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Man & Woman, The Marriage Covenant IV

The purpose of this study is to analyze the spiritual roles of man and woman, a man and his wife, and a wife and her husband, as it relates to the spiritual guidelines mandated by YAH. This will help us to look at ourselves in light of the laws and precepts of Elohim to see if we’re meeting his expectations and receiving the just rewards of peace and stability as he has promised to those who love him and keep his commandments. We will be answering the following questions.

  • What was Man created to do?
  • What position was Man given after he was created?
  • Why was the woman created?
  • How does a man equip himself to walk righteously and fulfill his role?
  • What are the roles and position of the man now?
  • What characteristics should be exemplified by man?
  • What should a righteous woman look for in a man?
  • What’s the woman’s part in the family?
  • What happens when either the man or the woman doesn’t fulfill their role?

Once we establish an understanding on this topic it’s our hope that you will take the time to do a self analysis to see if your meeting the expectations of Elohim and address any transgressions that exist.

One of our primary concerns should be the relationship between the man, the woman, and Elohim. This is a critical relationship given that it involves our social as well as theocratic development. The proper understanding of this union and the roles and responsibilities of the man and woman has been slowly deteriorating. Through an exhaustive study of scripture, we will clearly present the standard and expectations of YAH, Elohim.

We have shown the man as a corporate institution and looked at examples of what he should not do as well as the way he should run his house. Most of the men that we have seen over the last forty years in our society are sensitive, insecure, volatile and unstable, making no real progression, and in many ways the situation is continuing to deteriorate. Women are more rebellious than ever, non appreciative, deceptive, non remorseful, disrespectful, disobedient, contentious and irreverent to their fathers, husbands, and YAH, who created them to be under righteous leadership.

    After a while he returned to take her; and he turned aside to see the carcass of the lion: and behold, there was a swarm of bees in the body of the lion, and honey. He took it into his hands, and went on, eating as he went; and he came to his father and mother, and gave to them, and they ate: but he didn’t tell them that he had taken the honey out of the body of the lion. His father went down to the woman: and Shimshon made there a feast; for so used the young men to do. It happened, when they saw him, that they brought thirty companions to be with him. Shimshon said to them, Let me now put forth a riddle to you: if you can declare it to me within the seven days of the feast, and find it out, then I will give you thirty linen garments and thirty changes of clothing; (Judges 14:8-12 RNWEB)

Shimshon believes he’s about to present a riddle that no one will be able to answer. He doesn’t have thirty garments to give away, but his expectation is there’s no way he can lose.

    but if you can’t declare it to me, then shall you give me thirty linen garments and thirty changes of clothing. They said to him, Put forth your riddle, that we may hear it. He said to them, Out of the eater came forth food. Out of the strong came forth sweetness. They couldn’t in three days declare the riddle. It happened on the seventh day, that they said to Shimshon’s wife, ENTICE YOUR HUSBAND, that he may declare to us the riddle, lest we burn you and your father’s house with fire: have you called us to impoverish us? is it not [so]? (Judges 14:13-15 RNWEB)

The thirty men could not figure out the riddle, so they went to Shimshon’s wife and asked her to deceive her husband to get them the answer to the riddle, threatening they would bring calamity to her household.

    Shimshon’s wife wept before him, and said, You do but hate me, and don’t love me: you have put forth a riddle to the children of my people, and haven’t told it me. He said to her, Behold, I HAVEN’T TOLD IT MY FATHER NOR MY MOTHER, AND SHALL I TELL YOU? (Judges 14:16 RNWEB)

His wife came to him crying and weeping, specifically to try to learn the answer to the riddle.

Men are stronger physically, however they’re just as weak as the women emotionally when it comes to their wives. Love blinds men and often makes them do foolish things. It’s important we see the nature of man and woman, this is why we’re looking at scriptural examples and the books of the law for wisdom in this matter.

    SHE WEPT BEFORE HIM THE SEVEN DAYS, while their feast lasted: and it happened on the seventh day, THAT HE TOLD HER, BECAUSE SHE PRESSED HIM SORE; AND SHE TOLD THE RIDDLE TO THE CHILDREN OF HER PEOPLE. The men of the city said to him on the seventh day before the sun went down, What is sweeter than honey? and what is stronger than a lion? He said to them, IF YOU HADN’T PLOWED WITH MY HEIFER, YOU WOULDN’T HAVE FOUND OUT MY RIDDLE. The Spirit of YAH came mightily on him, and he went down to Ashkelon, and struck thirty men of them, and took their spoil, and gave the changes [of clothing] to those who declared the riddle. His anger was kindled, and he went up to his father’s house. (Judges 14:17-19 RNWEB)

Even though the men learned the answer through deceptive means, and Shimshon was betrayed by his own wife, he made a commitment and was required to keep it under the law, so he went out and killed thirty men for their garments.

    Misery is mine! Indeed, I am like one who gathers the summer fruits, as gleanings of the vineyard: There is no cluster of grapes to eat. My soul desires to eat the early fig. THE REVERENT MAN HAS PERISHED OUT OF THE EARTH, and there is no one upright among men. They all lie in wait for blood; every man hunts his brother with a net. (Micah 7:1-2 RNWEB)

What defines a man as Elohim created him is almost all gone, the strength, ethical code, reasoning skills, and adherence to the law are almost non existent.

    Their hands are on that which is evil to do it diligently. The ruler and judge ask for a bribe; and the powerful man dictates the evil desire of his soul. Thus they conspire together. The best of them is like a brier. THE MOST UPRIGHT IS WORSE THAN A THORN HEDGE. The day of your watchmen, even your visitation, has come; now is the time of their confusion. DON’T TRUST IN A NEIGHBOR. DON’T PUT CONFIDENCE IN A FRIEND. WITH THE WOMAN LYING IN YOUR EMBRACE, BE CAREFUL OF THE WORDS OF YOUR MOUTH! (Micah 7:3-5 RNWEB)

The righteous man should not put trust in his neighbor, not put confidence in a friend, and should be careful what he says to the woman lying in his embrace. Shimshon killed thirty men to pay a debt because he was not careful of the words he spoke to the woman in his embrace. He didn’t learn from his first experience and eventually lost his freedom, his eyes, and finally his life because he told the woman in his embrace things he shouldn’t have.

    For the son dishonors the father, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; A MAN’S ENEMIES ARE THE MEN OF HIS OWN HOUSE. (Micah 7:6 RNWEB)

We need to use a great deal discretion and good judgment regarding the things we say and don’t say. This does not mean a man should withhold all information from his wife, however anything that may be detrimental to the viability and stability of the household the man should be diligent to act wisely not saying anything that could cause an issue to become more inflamed. These types of situations need to be handled and resolved by the man. Shimshon put the power over thirty men’s lives in his wife’s hands when he told her the riddle.

    “Oh, my son! Oh, son of my womb! Oh, son of my vows! DON’T GIVE YOUR STRENGTH TO WOMEN, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. (Proverbs 31:2-3 RNWEB)

Look what happened to Solomon with his several hundred wives and concubines. The man needs to run his household while upholding righteous precepts, and not turn his position as head over to his wife by allowing himself to be manipulated through feminine wiles.

    “There are three things which are too amazing for me, four which I don’t understand: The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent on a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and THE WAY OF A MAN WITH A MAIDEN. (Proverbs 30:18-19 RNWEB)

There are four things that are not understood, the forth and most pervasive is the way of a man with a woman.

    “So is the way of an adulterous woman: she eats and wipes her mouth, and says, ‘I have done nothing wrong.’ (Proverbs 30:20 RNWEB)

She eats, wipes her mouth, and justifies her adultery.

    Three things make the earth quake, four things it can’t bear – a slave who becomes king, a boor gorged with food, A HATED [or HATEFULL WIFE] WHEN HER HUSBAND TAKES HER [BACK], AND A SLAVE-GIRL WHO INHERITS FROM HER MISTRESS. (Proverbs 30:21-23 CJB)

In the days antiquity families desired for their children to marry royalty. The difference between the classes was defined greatly by education and mannerisms. Often mistresses would be groomed to walk in royalty, so they could express themselves with a level of sophistication that servant girls would not have been trained to do, which created and imbalance.

It’s wise to stay away from a hateful woman when looking for a wife, every date is an interview, men need to make sure the woman he’s courting is truly a compliment (his rib), just as Chavah was fashioned from Adams rib to be the perfect compliment and helper for him. A hateful woman can only bring strife and misery into the household.

These types of problems exist because men and women are not operating in their ordained roles. They’re doing what they want to do, and how they want to do it, which results in a perversion of the natural order and spiritual design.

    A foolish son is the calamity of his father. A wife’s quarrels are a continual dripping. (Proverbs 19:13 RNWEB)

A foolish son is the ruin of his father, it breaks a fathers heart when a son doesn’t do well, and he won’t do well if he refuses to listen to instructions, showing no respect for his father or mother. In the ten commandments were promised a longer life if we honor our father and mother, if we can’t honor them, Elohim has no expectations that we can honor him.

An argumentative wife robs peace from the household and is an on going aggravation. Men should not marry a brawling woman, a man generally knows what type of women she is beforehand, though he may have convinced himself that she will change, or is willing to overlook it on account of her beauty or intellect. This doesn’t work, the only way a person can change their nature is by completely embracing the word of Elohim. This is something an individual has to do for themselves, and they will be held wholly accountable for their actions.

    It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than to share a house with a contentious woman. (Proverbs 21:9 RNWEB)
    It is better to dwell in a desert land, than with a contentious and fretful woman. (Proverbs 21:19 RNWEB)

An argumentative and contentious woman is very oppressive to a man.

If a man’s confident he made a wise decision in a matter, and it was under righteous precepts, he needs to hold to his guns and not let a contentious woman wear him down to the point of changing his mind just to appease her. A righteous man will make decisions that will keep his household stable financially, physically, and spiritually.

    A continual dropping on a rainy day and a contentious wife are alike: (Proverbs 27:15 RNWEB)

It’s obvious from the scriptures we reviewed that a woman can be very persuasive in an unrighteous manner to sway the decisions of her husband and cause a great deal of aggravation.

    As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. My people, those who lead you cause you to err, and destroy the way of your paths. (Isaiah 3:12 RNWEB)

Children must be bridled and given rules and guidelines of conduct, the husband and wife must always keep a united front, even if the woman disagrees with the man. The child will always gravitate to the parent that lets them have their way.

The woman governs the house in many families, this should not be the case, the man should always govern the house and the woman should help him and be his compliment in this task.

    There is a generation that curses their father, and doesn’t bless their mother. There is a generation that is pure in their own eyes, yet are not washed from their filthiness. There is a generation, oh how lofty are their eyes! Their eyelids are lifted up. There is a generation whose teeth are like swords, and their jaws like knives, to devour the poor from the earth, and the needy from among men. (Proverbs 30:11-14 RNWEB)
    Moreover YAH said, “Because the daughters of Tziyon ARE HAUGHTY, AND WALK WITH OUTSTRETCHED NECKS AND FLIRTING EYES, WALKING TO TRIP AS THEY GO, JINGLING ORNAMENTS ON THEIR FEET; therefore YAH brings sores on the crown of the head of the women of Tziyon, and YAH will make their scalps bald.” (Isaiah 3:16-17 RNWEB)

This is an example of irreverent behavior, it causes nothing but contention and chaos.

    In that day YAH will take away the beauty of their anklets, the headbands, the crescent necklaces, the earrings, the bracelets, the veils, the headdresses, the ankle chains, the sashes, the perfume bottles, the charms, the signet rings, the nose rings, the fine robes, the capes, the cloaks, the purses, the hand mirrors, the fine linen garments, the tiaras, and the shawls. It shall happen that instead of sweet spices, there shall be rottenness; instead of a belt, a rope; instead of well set hair, baldness; instead of a robe, a girding of sackcloth; and branding instead of beauty. Your men shall fall by the sword, and your mighty in the war. Her gates shall lament and mourn; and she shall be desolate and sit on the ground. (Isaiah 3:18-26 RNWEB)

When the men fall by the sword it will leave just a few. This is referring to Yisrael, however it’s being presented in the natural to represent the haughtiness of the sons of Yisrael using the woman as an example because this is what they have been displaying for years.

So, what happens when the population of men decreases?

    Seven women shall take hold of one man in that day, saying, “We will eat our own bread, and wear our own clothing: only let us be called by your name. Take away our reproach.” (Isaiah 4:1 RNWEB)

The women are saying this because it’s supposed to be the mans responsibility to feed and cloth the wife. He’s not going to marry more woman than he can provide for.

    In the third month after the children of Yisra’el had gone forth out of the land of Egypt, on that same day they came into the wilderness of Sinai. When they had departed from Refidim, and had come to the wilderness of Sinai, they encamped in the wilderness; and there Yisra’el encamped before the mountain. Moshe went up to Elohim, and YAH called to him out of the mountain, saying, “This is what you shall tell the house of Jacob, and tell the children of Yisra’el: (Exodus 19:1-3 RNWEB)
    YAH said to Moshe, “Behold, I come to you in a thick cloud, that the people may hear when I speak with you, and may also believe you forever.” Moshe told the words of the people to YAH. (Exodus 19:9 RNWEB)

YAH would tell Moshe, and then he would tell the people, when Moshe spoke, he was speaking the dictates of YAH.

    All the people perceived the thunderings, the lightnings, the sound of the trumpet, and the mountain smoking. When the people saw it, they trembled, and stayed at a distance. THEY SAID TO MOSHE, “SPEAK WITH US YOURSELF, AND WE WILL LISTEN; BUT DON’T LET ELOHIM SPEAK WITH US, LEST WE DIE.” Moshe said to the people, “Don’t be afraid, for Elohim has come to test you, and that his fear may be before you, that you won’t sin.” The people stayed at a distance, and Moshe drew near to the thick darkness where Elohim was. (Exodus 20:18-21 RNWEB)

The laws were given to Moshe, and Moshe gave them to the people.

    If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marital rights. If he doesn’t do these three things for her, she may go free without paying any money. (Exodus 21:10-11 RNWEB)

Elohim said this, it wasn’t something Moshe came up with. The man is responsible for taking care of, and providing for the woman in the marriage covenant. If he’s negligent in his duties the woman has grounds for divorce.

    Seven women shall take hold of one man in that day, saying, “We will eat our own bread, and wear our own clothing: only let us be called by your name. Take away our reproach.” (Isaiah 4:1 RNWEB)

The women are willing to provide for themselves even though it’s normally the mans responsibility. They are offering to do this in order to take a mans name, to take away their reproach. The woman is looking for a head to be over her to intercede and mediate on her behalf.

    Now she who is a widow indeed, and desolate, has her hope set on Elohim, and continues in petitions and prayers night and day. But she who gives herself to pleasure is dead while she lives. (1 Timothy 5:5-6 RNWEB)
    But refuse younger widows, for when they have grown wanton against the Anointed, they desire to marry; having condemnation, because they have rejected their first pledge. Besides, THEY ALSO LEARN TO BE IDLE, GOING ABOUT FROM HOUSE TO HOUSE. NOT ONLY IDLE, BUT ALSO GOSSIPS AND BUSYBODIES, SAYING THINGS WHICH THEY OUGHT NOT. I desire therefore that the younger widows marry, bear children, rule the household, and give no occasion to the adversary for reviling. For already some have turned aside after Satan. (1 Timothy 5:11-15 RNWEB)

Lets look at the relationship between YAH and his wife Yisrael. YAH pitied her, entered a marriage covenant and loved her. He provided her with warmth, comfort, stability, leadership, direction, and security.

    Again the word of YAH came to me, saying, Son of man, cause Yerushalayim to know her abominations; and say, Thus says YAH Elohim to Yerushalayim: Your origin and your birth is of the land of the Kena`ani; the Amori was your father, and your mother was a Chittite. (Ezekiel 16:1-3 RNWEB)

YAH is looking at Yisrael in terms of her origin, she was a pagan, unclean, and without leadership and direction.

    As for your birth, in the day you were born your navel was not cut, neither were you washed in water to cleanse you; you weren’t salted at all, nor swaddled at all. No eye pitied you, to do any of these things to you, to have compassion on you; but you were cast out in the open field, for that your person was abhorred, in the day that you were born. When I passed by you, and saw you weltering in your blood, I said to you, [Though you are] in your blood, live; yes, I said to you, [Though you are] in your blood, live. I CAUSED YOU TO MULTIPLY as that which grows in the field, and you increased and grew great, and you attained to excellent ornament; your breasts were fashioned, and your hair was grown; yet you were naked and bare. (Ezekiel 16:4-7 RNWEB)

YAH caused Yisrael to multiply, just as a man should cause his wife to multiply.

    Now when I passed by you, and looked at you, behold, your time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over you, and covered your nakedness: yes, I swore to you, and entered into a covenant with you, says YAH Elohim, and you became mine. Then washed I you with water; yes, I thoroughly washed away your blood from you, and I anointed you with oil. I clothed you also with embroidered work, and shod you with sealskin, and I girded you about with fine linen, and covered you with silk. I decked you with ornaments, and I put bracelets on your hands, and a chain on your neck. I put a ring on your nose, and earrings in your ears, and a beautiful crown on your head. Thus were you decked with gold and silver; and your clothing was of fine linen, and silk, and embroidered work; you ate fine flour, and honey, and oil; and you were exceeding beautiful, and you did prosper to royal estate. (Ezekiel 16:8-13 RNWEB)

YAH’s talking about his wife Yisrael, whom he married at mount Sinai, he declared vows in a covenant that she excepted. All Yisrael declared, as you have said we will do. Then Moshe sealed the covenant by sprinkling blood on the people and the book of the covenant.

    Your renown went forth among the nations for your beauty; FOR IT WAS PERFECT, THROUGH MY MAJESTY which I had put on you, says YAH Elohim. (Ezekiel 16:14 RNWEB)

YAH cleaned up his wife and adorned her through his majesty, which any husband should do for his wife as long as it doesn’t impact on the stability of the household. It’s not the husbands job to give his wife everything she wants, just everything she needs.

    But you did trust in your beauty, and played the prostitute because of your renown, and poured out your prostitution on everyone who passed by; his it was. (Ezekiel 16:15 RNWEB)

Once she was lifted up and adorned by her husband, she became full of pride, arrogance, and selfishness, forsaking her husband.

    You took of your garments, and made for yourselves high places decked with various colors, and played the prostitute on them: [the like things] shall not come, neither shall it be [so]. You also took your beautiful jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I had given you, and made for yourself images of men, and played the prostitute with them; and you took your embroidered garments, and covered them, and did set my oil and my incense before them. My bread also which I gave you, fine flour, and oil, and honey, with which I fed you, you did even set it before them for a sweet savor; and [thus] it was, says YAH Elohim. Moreover you have taken your sons and your daughters, whom you have borne to me, and these have you sacrificed to them to be devoured. Were your prostitution a small matter, THAT YOU HAVE SLAIN MY CHILDREN, and delivered them up, in causing them to pass through [the fire] to them? (Ezekiel 16:16-21 RNWEB)

The children belong to the man, not the woman, they come from his seed.

    In all your abominations and your prostitution YOU HAVE NOT REMEMBERED THE DAYS OF YOUR YOUTH, when you were naked and bare, and were weltering in your blood. (Ezekiel 16:22 RNWEB)

The women didn’t remember how she was before the marriage, that has become a distant memory.

    It has happened after all your wickedness, (woe, woe to you! says YAH Elohim), that you have built to you a vaulted place, and have made you a lofty place in every street. You have built your lofty place at the head of every way, and have made your beauty an abomination, and have opened your feet to everyone who passed by, and multiplied your prostitution. (Ezekiel 16:23-25 RNWEB)

Promiscuity is predominant today, people having multiple partners just for the pleasure of it, relationships are shallow and numerous. Why would anyone want to marry a husband or wife like this? To have a stable, YAH ordained relationship requires that it be based on the rules and guidelines of the Sinaitic covenant.

    You have also committed sexual immorality with the Egyptians, your neighbors, great of flesh; and have multiplied your prostitution, to provoke me to anger. See therefore, I have stretched out my hand over you, and have diminished your ordinary [food], and delivered you to the will of those who hate you, the daughters of the Pelishtim, who are ashamed of your lewd way. You have played the prostitute also with the Ashur, BECAUSE YOU WERE INSATIABLE; yes, you have played the prostitute with them, and yet you weren’t satisfied. (Ezekiel 16:26-28 RNWEB)

It goes without saying that no one should be fooling around with others, whether there married or not. The woman needs to submit to her husbands authority as he submits to Elohim, she needs to compliment and help him, and he must provide for her needs.

    You have moreover multiplied your prostitution to the land of merchants, to Kasdim; and yet you weren’t satisfied with this. (Ezekiel 16:29 RNWEB)

She can’t be satisfied, she’s jumping from relationship to relationship. This is why a man should be asking how many men the woman has been with. These types of insights will help him understand the character of the woman he’s considering marrying.

    How weak is your heart, says YAH Elohim, seeing you do all these things, the work of an impudent prostitute; in that you build your vaulted place at the head of every way, and make your lofty place in every street, and have not been as a prostitute, in that you scorn pay. A wife who commits adultery! who takes strangers instead of her husband! (Ezekiel 16:30-32 RNWEB)

She’s satisfied by strangers, possibly to get back at her husband for all the rules and polices that he set forth to stabilize his household. Elohim is looking at the man to see what rules he establishes to govern his house. If he does not set down rules and polices, he’s not fulfilling his position as a son of Elohim.

    They give gifts to all prostitutes; but you give your gifts to all your lovers, and bribe them, that they may come to you on every side for your prostitution. You are different from [other] women in your prostitution, in that none follows YOU TO PLAY THE PROSTITUTE; AND WHEREAS YOU GIVE HIRE, AND NO HIRE IS GIVEN TO YOU, THEREFORE YOU ARE DIFFERENT. Therefore, prostitute, hear the word of YAH: Thus says YAH Elohim, Because your filthiness was poured out, and your nakedness uncovered through your prostitution with your lovers; and because of all the idols of your abominations, and for the blood of your children, that you gave to them; therefore see, I will gather all your lovers, with whom you have taken pleasure, and all those who you have loved, with all those who you have hated; I will even gather them against you on every side, and will uncover your nakedness to them, that they may see all your nakedness. I WILL JUDGE YOU, AS WOMEN WHO BREAK WEDLOCK AND SHED BLOOD ARE JUDGED; and I will bring on you the blood of wrath and jealousy. I will also give you into their hand, and they shall throw down your vaulted place, and break down your lofty places; and they shall strip you of your clothes, and take your beautiful jewels; and they shall leave you naked and bare. They shall also bring up a company against you, and they shall stone you with stones, and thrust you through with their swords. They shall burn your houses with fire, and execute judgments on you in the sight of many women; and I will cause you to cease from playing the prostitute, and you shall also give no hire any more. So will I cause my wrath toward you to rest, and my jealousy shall depart from you, and I will be quiet, and will be no more angry. BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOT REMEMBERED THE DAYS OF YOUR YOUTH, BUT HAVE RAGED AGAINST ME IN ALL THESE THINGS; therefore, behold, I also will bring your way on your head, says YAH Elohim: and you shall not commit this lewdness with all your abominations. (Ezekiel 16:33-43 RNWEB)

Elohim will judge these actions, woman are rebelling when they try to take a joint or governing role in the household, are disobedient to their husband, and if they use their feminine wiles to try to get their own way.

    Behold, everyone who uses proverbs shall use [this] proverb against you, saying, As is the mother, so is her daughter. (Ezekiel 16:44 RNWEB)

There are many parts of society where mothers tell their daughters it’s ok to sell yourself to get what you want. We’re not talking about a traditional prostitute that stands on a street corner, but a woman that will seduce a man, having sexual relations with him, so he will buy her things and take care of her needs. It’s the same as being a prostitute but repackaged to be more appealing to the men.

    You are the daughter of your mother, who loathes her husband and her children; and you are the sister of your sisters, who loathed their husbands and their children: your mother was a Chittite, and your father an Amori. (Ezekiel 16:45 RNWEB)

The man should look at the mother of the woman he’s thinking of marrying, if she’s loose, chances are the daughters the same way, especially if the father didn’t live in the household, and it was just the mother raising the daughter, statistically it’s more likely the daughter will be promiscuous. The male does a better job raising daughters than the females do, this is because men know what males look for in a woman they’re looking forward to marrying, and they start teaching their daughters that standard at a very early age.

    Your elder sister is Samaria, who dwells at your left hand, she and her daughters; and your younger sister, who dwells at your right hand, is Sedom and her daughters. Yet have you not walked in their ways, nor done after their abominations; but, as [if that were] a very little [thing], YOU WERE MORE CORRUPT THAN THEY IN ALL YOUR WAYS. As I live, says YAH Elohim, Sedom your sister has not done, she nor her daughters, as you have done, you and your daughters. (Ezekiel 16:46-48 RNWEB)

She, Yisrael was worse than Sedom, which is where we get the term sodomites from. The Sedomites were wicked people before Elohim, and yet Elohim says Yisrael, his wife was worse. In today’s terms a sodomite is a homosexual.

    I turned around, and my heart sought to know and to search out, and to seek wisdom and the scheme of things, and to know that wickedness is stupidity, and that foolishness is madness. I FIND MORE BITTER THAN DEATH THE WOMAN whose heart [mind] is snares and traps, whose hands are chains. Whoever pleases Elohim shall escape from her; but the sinner will be ensnared by her. (Ecclesiastes 7:25-26 RNWEB)

A woman can be more bitter than death, because she snares and traps, and she’s scheming and manipulative. It’s only the wise and righteous man that can escape from her.

    Behold, this have I found, says Kohelet, one to another, to find out the scheme; which my soul still seeks; but I have not found: ONE MAN AMONG A THOUSAND HAVE I FOUND; BUT A WOMAN AMONG ALL THOSE HAVE I NOT FOUND. (Ecclesiastes 7:27-28 RNWEB)

Only one man in a thousand was found to be wise, but not one virtuous woman was found. Both the woman and the men have a number of issues to address in order to walk righteously before Elohim.

    EVERY WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HOUSE, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. (Proverbs 14:1 RNWEB)

A wise woman builds her house, the man is in authority and the woman is standing behind him. The foolish woman tears down her house by doing everything contrary to what the head of the house established.

    A worthy woman is the crown of her husband, but a disgraceful wife is as rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4 RNWEB)

The worthy or virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but one who undermines his initiatives, lies, and deceives is rottenness to his bones. There is a small remnant that understand these principles, and we each need to do a self analysis to make sure we are part of that remnant.

    House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from YAH. (Proverbs 19:14 RNWEB)

A prudent wife is a blessing from YAH, men need to stop going out looking for wives, they should be addressing their own issues, so when Elohim blesses them with a mate, it will be a blessing not just for the man but also for the woman. Most men are too immature to be blessed with a wife, there too sensitive, emasculated, slothful, envious, insecure, unstable, proud and jealous.

    Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of YAH. (Proverbs 18:22 RNWEB)

A man that marries a virtuous woman is blessed. They will prosper and have peace and stability in the house.

    WHO CAN FIND a worthy [virtuous] woman? For her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10 RNWEB)

A truly virtuous woman is rare.

    The heart of her husband trusts in her. He shall have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:11-12 RNWEB)

If a man is blessed with a wife from YAH, she will do him good and not harm, because she knows she was created for him, to be a compliment and helpmate.

    She seeks wool and flax, and works eagerly with her hands. She is like the merchant ships. She brings her bread from afar. (Proverbs 31:13-14 RNWEB)

She’s contributing and making things happen. A true wife is someone that a righteous man can teach and coach, so she’s in a position to help fill the void when he can’t.

    She rises also while it is yet night, gives food to her household, and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field, and buys it. With the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard. She girds her waist with strength, and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp doesn’t go out by night. She lays her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her arms to the poor; yes, she extends her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes for herself carpets of tapestry. Her clothing is fine linen and purple. HER HUSBAND IS RESPECTED IN THE GATES, WHEN HE SITS AMONG THE ELDERS OF THE LAND. (Proverbs 31:15-23 RNWEB)

For a husband to be respected, he must be righteous, stand by his convictions, and have integrity.

    She makes linen garments and sells them, and delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing. She laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom. Faithful instruction is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and doesn’t eat the bread of idleness. HER CHILDREN RISE UP AND CALL HER BLESSED. HER HUSBAND ALSO PRAISES HER: “Many women do noble things, but you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; BUT A WOMAN WHO FEARS YAH, SHE SHALL BE PRAISED. (Proverbs 31:24-30 RNWEB)

A woman that truly fears YAH will be praised, this is a virtuous woman, not one pretending to walk in righteousness by outer appearance and when she’s behind closed doors is contentious. The outward appearance of beauty is vain and her charm can be deceitful.

Charm – Attractiveness, beauty, glamour, loveliness; appeal, allure, desirability, seductiveness, sexual/animal magnetism, charisma; informal pulling power.

    Give her of the fruit of her hands! Let her works praise her in the gates! (Proverbs 31:31 RNWEB)

The woman was created to be in obedience to her spiritual head, her husband. Young women should be mentored by their mothers to love their husbands and children, while being sober minded, chaste, and in subjection to them.

    Likewise, exhort the YOUNGER MEN TO BE SOBER MINDED; in all things showing yourself an example of good works; IN YOUR TEACHING SHOWING INTEGRITY, SERIOUSNESS, INCORRUPTIBILITY, AND SOUNDNESS OF SPEECH THAT CAN’T BE CONDEMNED; that he who opposes you may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say about us. (Titus 2:6-8 RNWEB)
    Listen to your father who gave you life, and don’t despise your mother when she is old. (Proverbs 23:22 RNWEB)

If a man does not have a good relationship with his mother, those same issues he has with her will generally end up being issues with his wife. The woman needs to be aware of this and observe his relationship with his mother. If a woman does not have a good relationship with her father, generally those same issues will be carried into the marriage and end up being issues with her husband. The man needs to observe the woman’s relationship with her father. Both parties should use wisdom before entering a marriage covenant, and the man should be sure she is his compliment.

This ends the study on The Man, Woman, and Marriage. Nothing that was written was intended to offend males or females, depending on the readers maturity in the culture they may not have been happy with many of the things that were revealed. The important thing to remember is they are YAH’s laws and precepts, and not the opinion of man. In a proper marriage, both the man and the woman will be fulfilled and prosperous, holding the roles Elohim has ordained for them.


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