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The Covenant of Marriage

The purpose of this study is to examine the act of marriage to provide a more in depth understanding of its workings by looking at how YAH views oaths and pledges in scripture, specifically between two people in marriage, which is a union legitimized by a covenant between a man and women or multiple parties according to the binding agreements. Our objective will be to answer the following questions.

  • What is a covenant?
  • What is a promise?
  • What importance does YAH place on covenants?
  • What is a marriage covenant?
  • What type of covenant exists between YAH and his people?
  • What constitutes adultery in a marriage?
  • What is woman’s role in the marriage covenant?
  • What foundation should the marriage covenant be based on?

To lay a proper foundation and present the best possible understanding, we will review the meanings of some key words that are integral in this study.


  • Covenant – A binding agreement; A formal sealed agreement or contract; A vow or earnest promise; To form a specified act or behave in a certain manner, especially a solemn promise to live and act in accordance with the rules of a religious order; To promise solemnly or pledge. 
  • Promise – A declaration assuring one will or will not do something; A vow; To commit oneself by promise; Give a pledge; A declaration that one will do or refrain from doing something specified; To set an expectation; A legally binding declaration that gives the person to whom it is made a right to expect or to claim the performance or forbearance of a specified act. 
  • Holy – A sacred place or thing; Rarely abstractly sanctity: – consecrated (thing), dedicated (thing), hallowed (thing), holiness, Holy, sanctified. 
  • Matrimony – A union created by an oath, covenant or vow.
      Observe that which I command you this day. Behold, I drive out before you the Amori, the Kena`ani, the Chittite, the Perizzi, the Chivvi, and the Yevusi. Be careful, lest you make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land where you are going, lest it be for a snare in the midst of you: but you shall break down their altars, and dash in pieces their pillars, and you shall cut down their Asherim; for you shall worship no other elohim: for YAH, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous Elohim. Don’t make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, lest they play the prostitute after their elohims, and sacrifice to their elohims, and one call you and you eat of his sacrifice; and you take of their daughters to your sons, and their daughters play the prostitute after their elohims, and make your sons play the prostitute after their elohims. (Exodus 34:11-16 RNEB)

    This is a prohibition against making covenants with the seven nations that occupied the land of Yisrael, because they were staunch pagan practitioners within their cultural theology. YAH had a major problem with this and did not want Yisrael in a position to be ensnared by their practices, to whore after their gods, or enter into marriage with them.

      It happened, when all the kings who were beyond the Yarden, in the hill country, and in the lowland, and on all the shore of the great sea in front of Levanon, the Chittite, and the Amori, the Kena`ani, the Perizzi, the Chivvi, and the Yevusi, heard of it; that they gathered themselves together, to fight with Yahoshua and with Yisra’el, with one accord. But when the inhabitants of Giv`on heard what Yahoshua had done to Yericho and to `Ai, they also resorted to a ruse, and went and made as if they had been ambassadors, and took old sacks on their donkeys, and wineskins, old and torn and bound up, (Joshua 9:1-4 RNEB)

    We see the Givonimites which are descendants of the Kenaanites who Yisrael was told not to make a covenant with. The Givonimites realized the sons of Yisrael were wiping everyone out in the land, so they decided to disguise themselves as vagabonds, with the intention of deceiving Yisrael into agreeing to a peace covenant to protect themselves.

      and old and patched shoes on their feet, and old garments on them; and all the bread of their provision was dry and was become moldy. They went to Yahoshua to the camp at Gilgal, and said to him, and to the men of Yisra’el, We are come from a far country: now therefore make you a covenant with us. (Joshua 9:5-6 RNEB)
      The men took of their provision, and didn’t ask counsel at the mouth of YAH. (Joshua 9:14 RNEB)

    What Yahoshua and the elders are doing is listening to the Givonimites and believing what they have been told, there going to make a covenant with them not knowing they are the sons of Kenaani.

      Yahoshua made peace with them, and made a covenant with them, to let them live: and the princes of the congregation swore to them. (Joshua 9:15 RNEB)
      The children of Yisra’el didn’t strike them, because the princes of the congregation had sworn to them by YAH, the Elohim of Yisra’el. All the congregation murmured against the princes. But all the princes said to all the congregation, We have sworn to them by YAH, the Elohim of Yisra’el: now therefore we may not touch them. This we will do to them, and let them live; lest wrath be on us, because of the oath which we swore to them. (Joshua 9:18-20 RNEB)

    At this point Yisrael realizes they were deceived by the Givonimites, however they are going to keep the oath they swore to them because they did not want the wrath of Elohim to come on them. It’s apparent that YAH takes oaths very seriously and Yisrael knew they could not break their oath. YAH watched Yisrael make an oath with the Givonimites, however he let them make the oath because Yisrael never consulted him about this matter.Lets jump ahead and see what is occurring regarding this covenant 430 year’s in the future.

      There was a famine in the days of David three years, year after year; and David sought the face of YAH. YAH said, It is for Sha’ul, and for his bloody house, because he put to death the Giv`onim. (2 Samuel 21:1 RNEB)

    There was a covenant made with the Givonimites 430 years earlier by Yahoshua and the elders. Shaul breaches this covenant by slaying the Givonimites, so YAH brought a famine in the land. David inquires of YAH about the famine because he was not aware of the covenant breach. This example also shows that YAH cannot be put under any time constraints, he will hold future generations accountable for the oaths, promises and misdeeds of their forefathers.

      The king called the Giv`onim, and said to them (now the Giv`onim were not of the children of Yisra’el, but of the remnant of the Amori; and the children of Yisra’el had sworn to them: and Sha’ul sought to kill them in his zeal for the children of Yisra’el and Judah); and David said to the Giv`onim, What shall I do for you? And with what shall I make atonement, that you may bless the inheritance of YAH? The Giv`onim said to him, It is no matter of silver or gold between us and Sha’ul, or his house; neither is it for us to put any man to death in Yisra’el. He said, What you shall say, that will I do for you. They said to the king, The man who consumed us, and who devised against us, [that] we should be destroyed from remaining in any of the borders of Yisra’el, let seven men of his sons be delivered to us, and we will hang them up to YAH in Gevah of Sha’ul, the chosen of YAH. The king said, I will give them. But the king spared Mefivoshet, the son of Yonatan the son of Sha’ul, because of YAH’s oath that was between them, between David and Yonatan the son of Sha’ul. (2 Samuel 21:2-7 RNEB)

    Lets look at the oath made between Yonatan and David.

      YAH do so to Yonatan, and more also, should it please my father to do you evil, if I don’t disclose it to you, and send you away, that you may go in peace: and YAH be with you, as he has been with my father. You shall not only while yet I live show me the loving kindness of YAH, that I not die; but also you shall not cut off your kindness from my house forever; no, not when YAH has cut off the enemies of David everyone from the surface of the earth.” So Yonatan made a covenant with the house of David, [saying], YAH will require it at the hand of David’s enemies. Yonatan caused David to swear again, for the love that he had to him; for he loved him as he loved his own soul. (1 Samuel 20:13-17 RNEB)

    David has to take all of Shaul’s sons while honoring the covenant he made with Yonatan and satisfying the request of the Givonimites. Both covenants have to be honored, neither can be ignored.

      But the king spared Mefivoshet, the son of Yonatan the son of Sha’ul, because of YAH’s oath that was between them, between David and Yonatan the son of Sha’ul. (2 Samuel 21:7 RNEB)
      and he brought up from there the bones of Sha’ul and the bones of Yonatan his son: and they gathered the bones of those who were hanged. They buried the bones of Sha’ul and Yonatan his son in the country of Binyamin in Zela, in the tomb of Kish his father: and they performed all that the king commanded. After that Elohim was entreated for the land. (2 Samuel 21:13-14 RNEB)

    After David and the children of Yisrael satisfied the agreement correcting the breach of the covenant Elohim heard prayer for the land. In review, YAH had brought a famine to the land of Yisrael, which meant many people would die because of the covenant that was established by Yahoshua with the Givonimites 430 years earlier was broken by Shaul. David went to the Givonimites and asked what was required to correct the breach, they requested the heads of seven sons of Shaul, David fulfilled their request and YAH heard their prayer to heal the land.When there is an issue, breach or trespass between us and another party or any two parties and there is no one there to judicate on our behalf, we can petition Elohim, because he honors oaths, and he will make us honor ours.

    Were now going to look at Elohim’s relationship with Yisrael which is also applicable to a relationship between a man and woman.

      Don’t we all have one father? Hasn’t one Elohim created us? Why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, profaning the covenant of our fathers? Judah has dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Yisra’el and in Yerushalayim; for Judah has profaned the holiness of YAH which he loves, and has married the daughter of a foreign elohim. (Malachi 2:10-11 RNEB)

    This is dealing with Yisrael partaking in other spiritual practices, such as observing Christmas, Easter, Valentines day, and Sunday Sabbath.

      YAH will cut off, to the man who does this, him who wakes and him who answers, out of the tents of Jacob, and him who offers an offering to YAH of Armies. This again you do: you cover the altar of YAH with tears, with weeping, and with sighing, because he doesn’t regard the offering any more, neither receives it with good will at your hand. Yet you say, ‘Why?’ Because YAH has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion, and the wife of your covenant. Did he not make one, although he had the residue of the Spirit? Why one? He sought a reverent seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. FOR I HATE DIVORCE,” SAYS YAH, THE ELOHIM OF YISRA’EL, “and him who covers his garment with violence!” says YAH of Armies. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you don’t deal treacherously. You have wearied YAH with your words. Yet you say, ‘How have we wearied him?’ In that you say, ‘Everyone who does evil is good in the sight of YAH, and he delights in them;’ or ‘Where is the Elohim of justice?’ (Malachi 2:12-17 RNEB)

    YAH hates divorce, and will see who he’s talking about in the next verse.

      They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man’s, will he return to her again? Won’t that land be greatly polluted? But you have played the prostitute with many lovers; yet return again to me, says YAH. (Jeremiah 3:1 RNEB)

    It’s written in the law that if you divorce your wife, and she goes and lies with another man, she cannot come back. YAH is telling Yisrael that they have gone out and played the whore with many lovers, however he hates divorce, the penalty is death if a woman has intercourse with a man while in a covenant with another. This also applies to our relationship with Elohim, only he is merciful and said he will put away the sin if they come back to him wholly.

      Moreover YAH said to me in the days of Yoshiyahu the king, Have you seen that which backsliding Yisra’el has done? she is gone up on every high mountain and under every green tree, and there has played the prostitute. I said after she had done all these things, She will return to me; but she didn’t return: and her treacherous sister Judah saw it. I saw, when, for this very cause that backsliding Yisra’el had committed adultery, I HAD PUT HER AWAY AND GIVEN HER A BILL OF DIVORCE, yet treacherous Judah, her sister, didn’t fear; but she also went and played the prostitute. (Jeremiah 3:6-8 RNEB)

    YAH divorced the Northern house of Yisrael for their whoring in 721 BC when he sent the Assyrians to Samaria to carry away all the northern tribes and re-colonized them, they were replaced with Indo Europeans and Africans. Judah the southern tribes saw all this taking place and still committed adultery against YAH. As a result, the northern tribes were driven out in 721 BC and Judah the southern tribes were driven from the land in 70 CE. In YAH’s forbearance, he put up with the harlotry of Yisrael for a long time because he hates divorce. YAH is a covenant power and expects us to have the very same relationships with those we have come into a union with as he expects from us being in covenant with him.

      Return, backsliding children, says YAH; FOR I AM A HUSBAND TO YOU: and I will take you, one from a city, and two from a family, and I will bring you to Tziyon: (Jeremiah 3:14 RNEB)
      not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which my covenant they broke, although I was a husband to them, says YAH. (Jeremiah 31:32 RNEB)

    YAH was a husband to Yisrael, and they broke the covenant. Lets look at the covenant and marital vows, remember that he said Yisrael was his wife.

      He said to Moshe, “Come up to YAH, you, and Aharon, Nadav, and Avihu, and seventy of the elders of Yisra’el; and worship from a distance. Moshe alone shall come near to YAH, but they shall not come near, neither shall the people go up with him.” Moshe came and told the people all the words of YAH, and all the ordinances; and all the people answered with one voice, and said, “All the words which YAH has spoken will we do.” Moshe wrote all the words of YAH, and rose up early in the morning, and built an altar under the mountain, and twelve pillars for the twelve tribes of Yisra’el. He sent young men of the children of Yisra’el, who offered burnt offerings and sacrificed peace offerings of oxen to YAH. Moshe took half of the blood and put it in basins, and half of the blood he sprinkled on the altar. He took the book of the covenant and read it in the hearing of the people, and they said, “All that YAH has spoken will we do, and be obedient.” (Exodus 24:1-7 RNEB)

    The law says if someone lies with a virgin he must endow her to be his wife. Generally, a virgin is a virgin because her hymen has not been broken through penetration, and the ritual in those days was after the marriage a virgin would lay a white sheet down on the bed, then go into the tent with her husband and have intercourse, when they were finished, they would look for the tokens of her virginity on the sheet. If the sheet did not have blood, they would go to the judges because the woman was misrepresented when the vows, or covenant was established. The scripture dictates that this woman would be excommunicated from the community or put to death. Even though blood would generally be shed at the consummation if the woman was not a widow, the marriage took place before the consummation, when the oath or vows were taken between both parties, this is what establishes the marriage when judicated before YAH. In other words, when the vows are declared before YAH and both parties agree the marriage is established, consummating the marriage just seals the deal.

      Moshe took the blood, and sprinkled it on the people, and said, “Look, this is the blood of the covenant, which YAH has made with you concerning all these words.” (Exodus 24:8 RNEB)

    We see the same thing again, YAH gave the children of Yisrael a covenant which both parties agreed to, then blood was sprinkled on the people, just as a female sheds blood when penetrated, and it gets on the male to seal the covenant or agreement.

      I tell you that every idle word that men speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. (Matthew 12:36 RNEB)

    When speaking about idle words spoken, it’s saying that we need to be very careful of the agreement we make, because we will be held accountable for every single word.

      For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matthew 12:37 RNEB)

    We know we’re dealing with a covenant deity because he rebuked an entire nation of people and brought famine in the land because of the breach of the covenant between Yisrael and the Givonimites. YAH deals with covenants established between individuals the very same way.

      It happened when Yahshua had finished these words, he departed from the Galil, and came into the borders of Judah beyond the Yarden. Great multitudes followed him, and he healed them there. Pharisees came to him, testing him, and saying, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason?” He answered, “Haven’t you read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?’ So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore Elohim has joined together, don’t let man tear apart.” (Matthew 19:1-6 RNEB)

    Only YAH can join two people, just as it was in the beginning with Adam and Chavah, assuming two people choose to act and participate in the operation that makes them man and wife. This only occurs by them exchanging a covenant and giving an operational definition for that covenant. Once the covenant is agreed on notice what it says, “what Elohim has joined, let man not separate.” Divorce is not an option, this is unto death. Marriages don’t last today because people don’t have any respect for the covenant, their word means nothing, and they operate outside the natural order of things, however YAH will hold them accountable for every oath, vow and covenant, they have made.

      He said to them, “Moshe, because of the hardness of your hearts, allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it has not been so. I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:8-9 RNEB)

    Yahshua is usurping Moshe, Moshe said it was alright to write a paper of divorce, however this was not part of the law. Consequently, Yahshua is saying you can no longer put away your wife except for whoring.

      He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife, and marries another, commits adultery against her. If a woman herself divorces her husband, and marries another, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12 RNEB)

    According to scripture a man commits adultery when:

    • He divorces his wife and marries another woman.
    • During the marriage covenant, he agrees not to take another wife, and does so anyway, breaching the agreement.
    • He has intercourse with another mans wife.

    The woman’s role in the marriage covenant is to be man’s complement and help mate.

      Know therefore that YAH your Elohim, he is Elohim, the faithful Elohim, WHO KEEPS COVENANT AND LOVING KINDNESS WITH THEM WHO LOVE HIM AND KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS TO A THOUSAND GENERATIONS, and repays those who hate him to their face, to destroy them: he will not be slack to him who hates him, he will repay him to his face. You shall therefore keep the commandment, and the statutes, and the ordinances, which I command you this day, to do them. (Deuteronomy 7:9-11 RNEB)
      This is that Moshe, who said to the children of Yisra’el, ‘YAH our Elohim will raise up a prophet for you from among your brothers, like me. ‘ This is he who was in the assembly in the wilderness with the angel that spoke to him on Mount Sinai, and with our fathers, who received living oracles to give to us, (Acts 7:37-38 RNEB)

    The assembly was established in the wilderness, the gentiles cannot go out and setup and ecclesiastical institution like Ignatius, Jerome, and Justin Martyr did, this is how they became involved in a tainted theology. This task was given to the sons of Yisrael, the foundation being established by Elohim, however the operations are through the sons of Yisrael. In other words, if anyone wants to know how to serve YAH, they must go through Yisrael, in the early assemblies after the Anointed’s resurrection gentile believers that were engrafted into Yisrael went to the synagogues each Sabbath day [7th day] to learn how to serve Elohim, they had to learn the laws and ordinances that were set down in the beginning.

      These things I write to you, hoping to come to you shortly; but if I wait long, that you may know how men ought to behave themselves in the house of Elohim, which is the assembly of the living Elohim, the pillar and ground of the truth. (1 Timothy 3:14-15 RNEB)

    The Assembly of the living Elohim is NOT composed of traditions, but Truth, which is the word of Elohim that’s found in the first five books of the bible.

      Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Master. For the husband is the head of the wife, and the Anointed also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to the Anointed, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as the Anointed also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as YAH also does the assembly; because we are members of his body, of his flesh and bones. “For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh.” This mystery is great, but I speak concerning the Anointed and of the assembly. Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:22-33 RNEB)
      I heard something like the voice of a great multitude, and like the voice of many waters, and like the voice of mighty thunders, saying, “Halleluyah! For YAH our Elohim, the Almighty, reigns! Let us rejoice and be exceedingly glad, and let us give the glory to him. For the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his wife has made herself ready.” IT WAS GIVEN TO HER THAT SHE WOULD ARRAY HERSELF IN BRIGHT, PURE, FINE LINEN: FOR THE FINE LINEN IS THE RIGHTEOUS ACTS OF THE HOLY ONES. (Revelation 19:6-8 RNEB)

    This is why Shaul said we should only marry in the faith. The foundation for the marriage union should be predicated on sovereign service to Elohim. What place does righteousness have with unrighteousness? How can two walk together unless they agree?

      He said to me, “Write, ‘Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.'” He said to me, “These are true words of Elohim.” (Revelation 19:9 RNEB)
      Here is the patience of the holy ones, those who keep the commandments of Elohim, and the faith of Yahshua.” (Revelation 14:12 RNEB)
      Blessed are those who do his commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter in by the gates into the city. (Revelation 22:14 RNEB)

    To be in the sovereign service of Elohim we must keep his commandments and have the testimony of Yahshua the Anointed. If both parties understand the covenant they entered when they chose to serve YAH, then they will understand the marriage covenant they entered when they decided to be joined together. This is not something that should be done lightly, because the vows we make between each other are as if we made them directly to YAH, and he will hold us accountable for them. Any pledge, promise, agreement, oath, covenant, must always be upheld and never broken, the way we interact and treat each other is the same as if we did it to YAH.

      Then the King will tell those on his right hand, ‘Come, blessed of my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry, and you gave me food to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave me drink; I was a stranger, and you took me in; naked, and you clothed me; I was sick, and you visited me; I was in prison, and you came to me.’ “Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Master, when did we see you hungry, and feed you; or thirsty, and give you a drink? When did we see you as a stranger, and take you in; or naked, and clothe you? When did we see you sick, or in prison, and come to you?’ “The King will answer them, ‘MOST CERTAINLY I TELL YOU, INASMUCH AS YOU DID IT TO ONE OF THE LEAST OF THESE MY BROTHERS, YOU DID IT TO ME.’ (Matthew 25:34-40 RNEB)
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